Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma: Tracing the Evolution of Their Relationship
From romance to parenthood, follow the incredible journey of Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma's relationship as they navigate love, milestones, and a lifetime of cherished memories together
Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma are a dream-worthy couple, known for their adorable and relatable relationship. The former Lizzie McGuire star and musician tied the knot in December 2019 and often share candid glimpses of their life together on social media. From cozy nights in bed scrolling through Postmates to their NSFW tattoos, it's clear that they're just happy to have found each other.
On the first anniversary of their 2019 engagement, Duff expressed her love and appreciation for her partner in an Instagram post. She shared that she will always prioritize simple pleasures like sandwiches and early bedtimes over extravagant date nights. Duff also referred to her partner as her best friend, lover, and papa bear, highlighting the strong bond they share. The couple first met when they collaborated on Duff's 2015 album Breathe In. Breathe Out, shortly after her split from ex-husband Mike Comrie, with whom she shares a son named Luca.
According to a source, Koma and his now-wife had excellent chemistry in the studio. Hilary believed that Matt was very talented and attractive. Their first red carpet appearance as a couple was in 2017, a year after they officially began dating. The couple had their first daughter, Banks, in October 2018, and then got married in a small backyard ceremony the following year, incorporating their children. Duff described their kids as the biggest part of their lives in a 2019 interview with Vogue.
During the 2020 coronavirus pandemic, the actress from A Cinderella Story revealed that she was expecting her third child. The "So Yesterday" singer joked on Instagram in October about her pregnancy during quarantine. In March 2021, Duff welcomed her second daughter, Mae James, and expressed gratitude for her husband's support during her at-home water birth. She praised her husband as the calm anchor in the room during the emotional experience.
Raising three kids isn’t easy, but the couple have a sense of humor about keeping their romance alive when they aren’t changing diapers. In September 2021, Koma praised Duff for balancing her parenting duties while filming Hulu’s How I Met Your Father, sharing a photo that he described as “one of my favorite pictures of wifey somewhere between supremely fulfilled, exhausted and why the f–k are you taking my photo.”
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She joked in the Instagram comments at that time, “This is bound to get him baby No. 4.”
Keep scrolling for Duff and Koma’s major relationship milestones.
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Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma: A Timeline of Their Relationship
Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma's relationship is a real-life fairytale. The beloved former Lizzie McGuire star and the talented musician, who tied the knot in December 2019, are not only one of Hollywood's most endearing couples but also incredibly relatable. Their candid social media posts about late-night Postmates orders, risqué tattoos, and genuine gratitude for each other make them a couple to root for.
Duff took to Instagram to celebrate the first anniversary of their 2019 engagement, expressing that she will always prioritize sandwiches and early bedtimes over fancy date nights. She referred to her fiancé as her best friend, lover, and a remarkable father figure. The Younger alum first crossed paths with the record producer while working on her 2015 album Breathe In. Breathe Out., following her split from ex-husband, NHL player Mike Comrie, with whom she has a son named Luca.
According to a source, Koma and his now-wife had excellent chemistry in the studio. Hilary thought that Matt was very talented and cute. It was not until 2017, a year after they officially started dating, that the former Disney Channel star and the Winnetka Bowling League band leader made their first appearance together on the red carpet. In October 2018, the couple welcomed their first daughter, Banks, and the following year, they tied the knot in an intimate backyard ceremony that included their children, whom Duff described as "obviously, the biggest part of our life," in an interview with Vogue in 2019.
In 2020, during the COVID-19 pandemic, the actress from A Cinderella Story revealed that she was expecting her third child. She humorously commented on the situation, saying "Lol quarantine was fun," in an Instagram post in October.
Duff and her husband welcomed their second daughter, Mae James, in March 2021, with Duff expressing her gratitude for her husband's support during the at-home water birth. The couple also jokes about maintaining their romantic life while juggling three kids and Duff filming How I Met Your Father, with Koma praising her ability to balance it all.
She joked in the Instagram comments at that time, “This is bound to get him baby No. 4.”
Keep scrolling for Duff and Koma’s major relationship milestones.
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Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma: A Timeline of Their Relationship
Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma have a relationship that feels like a dream come true. The former Lizzie McGuire star and the musician, who tied the knot in December 2019, are not only one of Hollywood’s most charming couples but also one of the most relatable. Their social media posts about lounging in bed and ordering takeout, getting matching tattoos, and simply being grateful for each other resonate with many.
On the first anniversary of their 2019 engagement, Duff took to Instagram to express her preference for sandwiches and 8 p.m. bedtimes over fancy date nights repeatedly. She referred to her fiancé as her best friend, lover, and "papa bear" that cannot be rivaled, emphasizing that it has always been him. The Younger alum initially met the record producer when they collaborated on her album Breathe In. Breathe Out. in 2015. Prior to this, Duff had ended her marriage to NHL player Mike Comrie, with whom she has a son named Luca.
A source told We that Koma and his now-wife had great chemistry in the studio. Hilary was impressed by Matt's talent and found him cute. The couple made their red carpet debut in 2017, a year after officially starting to date. They welcomed their first daughter, Banks, in October 2018, and the following year they tied the knot in an intimate backyard ceremony that included their children, whom Duff described as "obviously, the biggest part of our life," in an interview with Vogue in 2019.
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During the 2020 coronavirus pandemic, the actress from A Cinderella Story revealed her pregnancy with her third child. In October, the "So Yesterday" singer joked on Instagram, "Lol quarantine was fun."
Duff welcomed her second daughter, Mae James, in March 2021 and expressed gratitude for her husband's support during her at-home water birth. Reflecting on Mae's 4-month "birth day," Duff praised her husband as a calm and steady presence in the room.
Juggling three kids is a challenge, but the couple maintains a sense of humor when it comes to keeping their romance alive amid parenting duties. In September 2021, Koma commended Duff for balancing her responsibilities while working on Hulu's How I Met Your Father, sharing a candid photo of her looking simultaneously fulfilled, exhausted, and exasperated.
She joked in the Instagram comments at that time, “This is bound to get him baby No. 4.”
Keep scrolling for Duff and Koma’s major relationship milestones.
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2015
The duo connected in 2015, a year following Duff's separation from her former husband Mike Comrie, with whom she has a son named Luca. This connection occurred during their collaboration on the album Breathe In. Breathe Out. A source close to Duff revealed to Us at the time, "They had great chemistry in the studio. Hilary thinks Matt is very talented and cute."
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January 2017
The Younger actress and Koma made their red carpet debut at a pre-SAG Awards party.
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March 2017
Duff and the “Kisses Back” singer briefly split after a few months of dating.
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October 2017
The couple reignited their love and the actress from Raise Your Voice began posting pictures of the two of them together on Instagram once more. She later revealed details about their romance, confiding in We magazine in December that "it's going so great."
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March 2018
Duff and Koma opened their hearts and home to an older dog. “Hey guys! We adopted an old dog,” the actress wrote alongside a heartwarming Instagram photo at the time. “Thank you so much @loveleorescue #welovelucy.” Koma also expressed his joy on Instagram. “I Love Lucy and she…looks fairly indifferent towards me,” he captioned a photo of the pup. “I will Ricky Ricardo her heart.”
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June 2018
Duff revealed the exciting news of their first child together in a heartwarming Instagram post. "Surprise everyone! @matthewkoma and I are expecting our own little princess and we are over the moon with excitement!!!!!!" she wrote alongside a photo capturing her partner giving her a loving kiss on the cheek, while proudly showcasing her baby bump.
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October 2018
The devoted mother announced the arrival of her newborn. "Banks Violet Bair," she wrote as a caption on an Instagram photo, depicting her and Koma tenderly cuddling their new baby girl. "This little one has completely captured our hearts! She entered our lives at home on Thursday afternoon and is truly enchanting."
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May 2019
Duff and Koma were in an on-and-off relationship for two and a half years before he finally proposed. She excitedly shared the news on Instagram, posting a photo of her new diamond ring and expressing her happiness. The singer also thanked him for the promotion, clearly thrilled about the next step in their relationship.
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December 2019
The couple married in a low-key wedding in the backyard of their Los Angeles home on December 21, 2019, in front of a small group of family and friends.
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May 2020
The singer of "Sparks" commemorated her engagement anniversary with her husband in May 2020. Duff expressed her gratitude to her husband in an Instagram post, saying, "Bubba, thanks for forcing me to go on that walk with you today (last year) I love you so much️. I will always choose sandwiches and 8 pm bedtimes over fancy date nights….over and over again. My best friend, lover, and papa bear that cannot be rivaled…it’s always been you."
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October 2020
In October 2020, the ex-Disney Channel celebrity revealed that they are expecting another addition to their family. “We are growing!!! Mostly me…” Duff wrote as a caption to a photo showing her baby bump, announcing her pregnancy with baby No. 3, her second child with Koma.
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December 2020
Duff shared a photo of her and Koma eating on their wedding day, in honor of their one-year anniversary in December 2020, writing "I love this moment so much. Matt and I were both too nervous to eat the day of our wedding .. this is directly after .... we slammed a plate of apps someone brought us before taking pictures and this pretty much sums us up ... Snacking through life, dreaming about dinner at 7 am and wrangling kids. Oh, and dodging covid the first year of marriage. Always with you babe. For you. Over and over I choose you and this ️ thank you for being a damn good man."
The New York native celebrated their special day with an Instagram tribute, saying, "Happy Anniversary Ba ... One year ago today looked a whole lot different. I can’t imagine this last year without you to Clorox groceries and avoid the world with. When I asked you to be my wife, we had no idea our first year would look like this ... They always say, ‘The first year is the hardest,’ but in our case it was for completely different reasons and I’m so in awe of your badassery. How you’re able to be the mom, individual, wife, spirit, and tie dye influencer you are, while making it look so easy is mind boggling and I don’t know what I did right to deserve being on the receiving end of it. Thank you for being the most steady, supportive, empathetic, loving, and passionate. You make me so much better. You make our family what it is. You’re the only thing that makes me cry through the Prozac. I love you."
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March 2021
Duff gave birth to their second child together, daughter Mae James, at home. “We LOVE you beauty,” she wrote via Instagram at the time.
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April 2021
Reflecting on her pregnancy sex life with Koma, the former Lizzie McGuire star shared with Dr. Berlin the lack of interest she felt towards the end. She expressed how it was not a helpful or fun tool to speed up labor this time around, unlike with her previous pregnancy. She also mentioned her annoyance when people suggested that it could start labor, acknowledging the mixed feelings her partner may have had about the situation.
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June 2021
"Matthew, Your dedication surpasses mine," the Younger actress affectionately began her tribute to her husband on his 34th birthday. "Most of all, I just want to express my gratitude.... for being my closest confidant. Giving your all to our children. Whenever there's even the slightest concern with me, you immediately prioritize making me feel heard and valued. And that means a lot (I'm quite the wordsmith, I know). But it's your sense of humor that really gets me...sometimes I don't even feel deserving of your clever jokes, and yet here I am, the fortunate chosen one. . "
Duff expressed her gratitude for Koma, saying, "Thank you for being the coziest safest blanket for us to all rest our head. Nobody else I'd rather go through the trenches with bubba. HBD love you papa who's 34!" she gushed. "Oh! And when you sit down and get really serious trying to do Banks’ hair.... I really like that too. Slays right through me."
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September 2021
On the eve of Duff's 33rd birthday, her husband penned a touching tribute that concluded with a NSFW message. "I consider myself incredibly fortunate to share this journey with you. Through the good times and the challenging moments, you remain unshaken and continue to give your all to our family," he expressed in his heartfelt message. Adding a humorous touch, Koma ended with, "Love you. Also my full body hive is better so we can bone down tonight." Duff appreciated her husband's wit, commenting, "Swoon. Thank goodness the FBH are gone because who could ever top these love declarations?"
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December 2021
Duff celebrated her second wedding anniversary with the guy of her dreams by sharing a carousel of photos and videos from their 2019 nuptials on Instagram. "12.21.19 with the guy of my dreams," she wrote. "Papa bear. Best friend. Good human. That’s all."
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February 2022
The Texas native shared a series of goofy photos via social media with her man in honor of Valentine’s Day.
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May 2022
The pair jetted off for a couple’s trip to Mexico where they attended a Dawes concert.
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June 2022
“Every day I spend with you is better than the last …. Happy Birthday to the one who brings us the most laughter and the one who has made me feel completely and irreversibly whole,” Duff wrote on Instagram to celebrate her husband's special day. “I love you more than anything @matthewkoma this has to be a simulation.”
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January 2023
"I've been informed that today is National spouse day. You love to tease and give me a hard time Matthew, and I love you so much for it. You're my own personal troll. Please never leave me," Duff captioned a sweet selfie with her husband, to which he replied, "Ugh, even my prozac can't stop the tears from your sweetness. I love you."
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May 2023
Koma celebrated the 4-year anniversary of his engagement to Duff by posting a throwback photo of the proposal on his Instagram Story. Duff also shared the same picture, with the caption, “I would say yes again and again.”
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November 2023
Duff revealed how she and Koma maintain their strong bond by engaging in shared activities. "I play tennis every Sunday. My husband and I do that together, which is really nice," she shared with Women's Health in November 2023. "About two years ago, I told him, 'Here's the deal: We need a sport so we still like each other when the kids leave the house.' So now, we ski, which is obviously seasonal. And we play tennis together, which is really fun."
