Unveiling Ariana Madix's Incredible Journey: Rising Above Heartbreak, Mastering 'DWTS', and Rediscovering Love

In early March, Ariana Madix experienced a major upheaval in her life when she discovered that her boyfriend of nine years, Tom Sandoval, was having an affair with her close friend and fellow Vanderpump Rules costar Rachel "Raquel" Leviss. This revelation led to a series of surreal events for Madix, as the scandalous relationship captured the attention of the public and sparked a frenzy on social media, revitalizing the Bravo reality series.

Madix has long been a beloved figure among fans, admired for her genuine camaraderie with other women and her willingness to show her vulnerability. Suddenly, she became the TV star that everyone was fervently supporting. While her relationship unravelled both in real life and on the show (with production on season 10 quickly resuming after the news broke), Madix, a 38-year-old Florida native, released breakup merchandise, landed a role in a Lifetime movie, and even received an invitation to the White House Correspondents' Dinner. Her unforgettable confrontation with Sandoval during the season finale showcased her strength and mettle, and in September, it was announced that she would be joining season 32 of Dancing With the Stars, further solidifying her status as an icon.

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Eight months after the dramatic events, Madix, who has been in a relationship with fitness coach Daniel Wai since April, expresses newfound confidence and a determination to move forward.

"This experience made me realize my ability to overcome challenges," she shares with Us. "The worst-case scenario actually occurred, and I managed to come out alright. It's proof that I can handle whatever comes my way." Madix sat down with Us during her cover shoot in L.A. to discuss her future plans.

"I've always been someone who resisted growing up, but as time has passed, I have learned to appreciate and accept myself more," Madix reveals. Jeff Lipsky For Foureleven Agency Were you aware of the immense popularity of Scandoval while it was unfolding?

During my social media hiatus, my friends kept me up to date sporadically. I remember thinking, "This situation is absolutely insane," while concurrently struggling with lack of nourishment and rest. It was a strange mix of conflicting emotions and sensations.

Was there a specific moment during that period that remains memorable?

"I was astonished when a mention was brought up at the White House Correspondents' Dinner and the president himself heard it. I couldn't help but feel amazed by the whole situation."

No.

Fans really embraced you in the wake of the scandal. Has it been nice to connect to them in a new way?

It's astonishing. Occasionally, while visiting the mall, I come across someone who has experienced a similar situation. And in the midst of Sephora, we engage in heartfelt conversations, shedding tears and embracing each other.

This profoundly intimate situation greatly contributed to the significant growth of VPR. How does that make you feel?

I understand that the show is entertaining and I appreciate that, however, it also reflects my actual life. There are occasions when the distinction between the two becomes less clear, but naturally, I desire the success of the show.

How is Dancing With the Stars progressing?

I’m having the best time. If I could do rehearsals and performances every day for the rest of my life, I’d be happy. I find it so rewarding and fun.

What’s been the hardest part?

Has anything about the experience caught you off guard?

Who do you consider as your strongest competitor?

Who have you formed the closest bond with?

I have formed a strong bond with Lele. We share many similarities, and she brings so much joy. Barry [Williams] has been incredibly kind. Additionally, I have also become friends with some of the professionals. I genuinely care for everyone involved.

“I like to work, and I always want to do more,” Madix says of reaching for the stars. Jeff Lipsky For Foureleven Agency

Has dancing changed how you feel about yourself?

If you had asked me to wear my samba outfit and have lunch on Vanderpump Rules three months ago, I would have felt very self-conscious. However, now I am more focused on my actions rather than my appearance, and that is definitely a change.

With your involvement in DWTS, filming VPR, and running a sandwich shop with your castmate Katie Maloney, how do you juggle everything?

I don't have time to balance things! [Laughs.] I constantly feel like I'm about to break. However, when it's time to relax, I ensure I truly rest. Currently, I have no social life and I can't even recall the experience of going to a bar.

How do you prioritize self-care?

Sleep. And honestly, being outside and cuddling with my animals and getting to spend time with my friends and family is the best.

You’ve said you go to therapy. Did that help after the breakup?

Therapy proved to be highly effective, with a significant impact on my overall well-being. The progress made during my therapy sessions has greatly benefited my current circumstances, preventing a potentially dire situation.

Regarding Daniel, how are things progressing between the two of you? Have you become exclusive?

We are.

How does it feel to have him flying to see you on DWTS every week?

It’s awesome. He’s incredibly supportive. He sacrifices his sleep and time to help me with anything I need, and then he takes a red-eye back and goes straight to work.

Sounds like a keeper!

He takes care of overlooked tasks and attends to small details that might go unnoticed. Returning home after the show and finding everything tidied up and homemade food in the fridge is incredibly thoughtful.

“The worst case scenario literally did happen, and I was OK,” says Madix. Jeff Lipsky For Foureleven Agency

Were you nervous about getting into another relationship?

I’m nervous about everything all the time. [Laughs.] It’s just part of my personality.

You’ve talked about not being into the idea of marriage. Do you think that will change?

I don’t know.

You opened up about your fertility journey on VPR. What’s the latest with your frozen eggs?

Well, they’re still on ice, so that’s good.

Do you have plans to do anything with them?

Not yet.

During season 1 of VPR, you were hesitant to be on camera. What advice would you go back and give that version of Ariana?

Avoid getting involved with men who are abusive and restrict your ability to shine and appear on a television program. This was the situation I was facing, and it is the reason why I had no desire to be on camera.

How have you evolved since the show's inception in 2013?

I have experienced personal growth as someone who never truly desired to mature. However, as time has passed, I have learned to nurture self-acceptance and be more forgiving of the challenges faced in the filming process. This, in turn, has enabled me to extend greater understanding and compassion to others.

Are you considering the possibility of creating your own spinoff series?

Sure. Why not? [I’d bring] all the girls. And James [Kennedy].

You’re close with Lala Kent, Scheana Shay and Katie. How did they support you through everything you’ve experienced?

They’ve been there for me, physically in the sense of coming over or giving me a place to go, and giving me advice and being there to cheer me up.

Were you surprised by anyone’s support?

Nobody surprised me. It’s been exactly what you would think.

You have a new book, Single AF Cocktails, coming out December 5. What was your inspiration?

I drew inspiration from the likes of Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, and Kacey Musgraves to lay it all out in a breakup-album style. Throughout my life, I have constantly utilized creative outlets to express myself. Additionally, I am interested in exploring various other genres of literature.

What is your go-to cocktail choice?

A mezcal Paloma. That’s my sh*t right there.

"I strive to constantly improve myself, focus on my own path, and avoid distractions," Madix shares. - Jeff Lipsky For Foureleven Agency

During your time bartending at popular venues in NYC, did you have any noteworthy celebrity interactions?

Butter was a popular spot where we encountered many celebrities. It was not unusual to see Kanye West and LeBron James arriving together. Additionally, Leonardo DiCaprio frequented the place as he was friends with the owners. As someone belonging to the elder millennial generation, I was absolutely enthralled. Whenever I walked past his table, I couldn't help but slow my pace, desperately hoping that he would acknowledge my presence. Coming from a small town in Florida, it was truly unimaginable that he would be there.

Could you confirm whether the rumors are true that you resided in your car when you initially relocated to Los Angeles?

I found myself in a difficult situation when my friend suddenly chose not to extend our lease. Without any place to go or financial means, I resorted to living out of my car and relying on couch surfing. In desperation, I entered into a toxic relationship with a man who offered me accommodation.

Did you ever envision achieving the fame you currently enjoy back then?

No, I don't have any other goals.

As a child, I daydreamed about owning my own home and gracing the Broadway stage. Those dreams have remained with me, even as an adult. Additionally, one of my aspirations is to host my own dating show, specifically one that is inclusive of the queer community. It is crucial to see more representation in this genre. Do you have any other reality shows you aspire to be a part of?

I’d love to be a judge on Top Chef because I really like to eat.

What about more acting?

Oh, absolutely. I want to do everything.

Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

Oh, man. I’d love to be living in Ojai [California] and have goats and a small but successful goat cheese business. It sounds so good, right?

What do you want your reality-TV legacy to be?

To enable individuals appearing on reality TV to express their true selves, regardless of whether it enhances their image as a "successful" reality star. Many individuals may perceive me as lacking proficiency in this role, but I believe it is precisely this aspect that defines my authenticity.

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