Selena Gomez's Soul-Baring Rendition of 'Lose You to Love Me' Will Leave You Breathless

Selena Gomez is revisiting her emotional track "Lose You to Love Me" four years after its release in a raw video. In a TikTok video shared on Monday, July 17, the 30-year-old singer wrote, "Making of... me getting to know myself."

Addressing potential criticism of her voice, Gomez wrote in a preemptive manner, "I am aware that my voice may not be the greatest, so I hope nobody minds if I disable comments for my mental well-being. Nevertheless, this intimate and genuine moment with 'Lose You to Love Me' is the best we could achieve."

In a candid video, Gomez can be seen recording herself at a piano while creating the track. Singing in the clip, she expresses, "You made promises that captivated me / I prioritized you and you cherished it / You set fire to my world / And you allowed it to burn / You sang off-key alongside me in my chorus / Because it wasn't your story." Continuing with raw emotion, she adds, "I witnessed the warning signs, yet I disregarded them / My optimistic perspective became distorted / You destroyed my purpose / And I allowed it to burn / You derived pleasure from causing pain / Even though it wasn't yours to claim."

The video concludes with Gomez pausing to take a deep breath before launching into the chorus of the song, which goes: "We used to go into it without knowing / I had to lose you to find myself / This dancing was slowly destroying me / I had to despise you to truly love myself, yeah."

While Gomez did not provide a specific date for when the video was initially recorded, she wrote the song after her breakup with former boyfriend Justin Bieber. They ended their relationship permanently in May 2018, and Justin went on to marry his current wife, Hailey Bieber (formerly Baldwin), in June of that same year.

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This isnt the greatest i know so i hope no one minds me turning the comments off for my head but this was the best, most sincere moments with lose you to love me

The source, speaking exclusively to We in October 2019, revealed that although Selena Gomez's breakup with Justin inspired the song, it would be inaccurate to claim that it solely revolves around him. Instead, it delves into the theme of self-love and the process of moving on from a toxic relationship.

Gomez's track received praise not only from her fans but also from her celebrity friends. In October 2019, Gomez's BFF Taylor Swift expressed her admiration for the song and regarded it as a perfect representation of healing. She wrote this on her Instagram Story, saying, "This song is a perfect expression of healing and my absolute favorite song she’s put out yet. A triumph. I love you so much @selenagomez." Niall Horan, whom Gomez had been romantically linked to in the past, also showed his support by leaving two heart emojis in the comments section of Gomez's Instagram post about the song.

In her 2022 Apple TV+ documentary, My Mind & Me, Gomez spoke candidly about the creative process behind her song. She reached out to Julia Michaels and Justin Tranter, expressing her readiness to express her sadness. Surprisingly, it was the fastest song she had ever written. Though it delves beyond lost love, it highlights her personal growth and the importance of self-care. Gomez also hopes that listeners can find solace and tranquility in her music. The song centers around the notion of losing oneself entirely in order to rediscover one's true identity.

She further elaborated, describing the lingering presence of a past relationship that others refused to let go of. However, she ultimately moved past it and was no longer afraid. This journey involved experiencing the most devastating heartbreak, only to reach a point of forgetting everything in an instant. It was undoubtedly perplexing, but Gomez believes it was a necessary process. In the end, she views it as the best thing that ever happened to her.