Unveiling the Secrets of Romance in Baldur's Gate 3: A Complete Guide to Wooing Astarion

Baldur's Gate 3 offers players the ability to form romantic connections with their companions. By aligning their play style with a specific character's preferences, players can gradually build their approval and unlock romantic interactions. Certain characters are more receptive to romance than others, such as the vampire elf Astarion, a charismatic Rogue who may appear standoffish at first but is quite amenable to player advances.

Astarion in Baldur's Gate 3

Players encounter Astarion early in Act 1 as they make their way out of the mind-flayer ship Nautiloid. By picking him up, players have the option to allow him to feed on them, which quickly increases his approval.

If players decide to pursue a romantic relationship with Astarion, they should make choices that align with his approval, typically by prioritizing actions that enhance the player's power and ruthlessly eliminating any obstacles in their path.

Astarion's Approval in Baldur's Gate 3

Beginning Choices

To enhance Astarion's approval with Tav, players should opt for actions that align with his preferences. The following choices can be made by players to ensure that they capture the heart of their Rogue vampire companion.

Accept Astarion's apology.

Trick and betray the Tieflings that have Lae'zel captured.

Get Lae'zel to say please to get out of the Tiefling's cage.

In the Grove

Don't mediate between Zevlor and Kagha.

Let Arka kill Sazza.

Tell Kagha that Tav enjoyed the show when she asks if they think she's a monster.

Tell Astarion that the refugees are desperate.

Poke Nettie's bird.

Provoke Ardin and Zevlor's fighting.

Kill Kagha.

Open the gate for the raiders.

Choose "Bad news, children. You're all going to die" in the speech to the Tiefling kids.

Praise Lae'zel for her interrogation of Zorru.

Around the Area

Use the tadpole's power against Brynna. Tell them to get revenge.

Persuade the Goblin guard in the Blighted Village to let everyone in.

Walk in on the pair having sex in the Blighted Village, then tell Astarion it was "fun."

Tell Barcus to give Tav compensation after saving him.

Use intimidation on the Orante Mirror in the Blighted Village.

Kill Feezerk.

Hire the Ogres for free.

Agree to help Karlach.

Take the supplies with Paladin Cyrel.

Kill the Githyanki patrol, or get Lae'Zel to play along with the lie.

Tell the Gnoll to eat other Gnolls.

Kill the Monster Hunter after Astarion, or lie to him.

The Sunlit Wetlands

Tell the two brothers that Tav won't help them find Mayrina.

Raise Mayrina's husband from the dead, then give Mayrina the wand. Afterward, tell Astarion that it was funny.

Laugh at Lorin.

Tell Auntie Ethel the truth about the parasite in Tav's brain.

Spare Auntie Ethel.

Let Astarion kill the Gurr.

In the Goblin Camp

Say, "You can't be serious," when the Goblin inside the camp asks Tav to eat poop.

Boo Volo in the Camp.

Kiss Novice Crusher's foot before stealing the ring. After that, make Nice Crusher kiss Tav's foot.

Tell the owlbear that the goblins are responsible.

Use tadpole powers on Krolla.

Join the Loviatar ritual.

Kill Priestess Gut.

Agree to let Abdirak torture Tav.

Convince Tracker Grikka that Tav will get better answers from the prisoner. Torture Liam.

Tell Minthara where the Grove is located.

Join Minthara against the Grove.

Attack the Goblin Camp.

Don't allow Halisn to join Tav's party for the Goblin Camp section.

In the Underdark

Agree to kill the Duregar.

Demand payment from Thulla.

Fight the Fake God.

Baelen Bonecloak to get himself out of his own mess.

Kill Glut.

Give owlbear food.

Push Corsair Greymon.

Ask Magmar for a slave.

Say the group doesn't need the Moonlantern.

Tell Nere to finish the slave off.

Baldur's Gate 3 is available now for PC.