Tori Spelling Reflects on Key Factors in Her Long Marriage with Dean McDermott

Tori Spelling opened up about her decision to remain in her marriage with Dean McDermott even when it was no longer working. During a discussion with Shannen Doherty on her podcast "misSPELLING" on Thursday, April 25, Spelling, who is 50 years old, shared that her fear of the unknown future was a major factor in her choice to stay. She also mentioned that people's preconceived ideas about her personality played a role in her hesitation to move forward.

Spelling expressed one of her biggest fears, which may have contributed to her staying in the relationship longer. She feels that in our society, it is challenging to be with a man without him feeling emasculated, not because of anything they do, but due to societal labels.

After 18 years of marriage, Spelling filed for divorce from McDermott, 57, in March. She described the breakup as still feeling "fresh" and expressed doubt about finding a new partner who could truly understand and connect with her.

She expressed to Doherty, 53, that they are more than just women who earn money. They are women with power and fame. She admitted feeling guilty, wondering how she can be with a man who doesn't feel inferior due to her status.

Tori Spelling Shares What Made Her Stay Longer in Dean McDermott Marriage

Doherty, who starred alongside Spelling on Beverly Hills, 90210, was quick to offer some advice to her recently single friend. She firmly stated, "There are men out there who don't care about that."

"There are men who have achieved success in their own right," Doherty explained. For example, a man could be a partner at a prestigious law firm. This shows that his hard work, dedication, and belief in himself have helped him climb the career ladder successfully.

Doherty also mentioned feeling sorry for Spelling's predicament, recognizing the challenges of being with someone who can easily secure reservations at any restaurant.

Doherty continued to encourage Spelling, believing that she could indeed find a partner who appreciates her accomplishments. According to Doherty, this partner should not be someone she can control, belittle her, or show any warning signs.

Spelling wasn’t feeling encouraged despite the kind words. She firmly stated, “Right now, this is all I know and I have to disagree with you.”

She reflected on past relationships, sharing, “In every relationship I’ve been in, I always make it clear that there’s a lot that comes with me. I apologize, but that's just the reality of being Tori Spelling.”

Editor's P/S:

Tori Spelling's decision to remain in her marriage despite its challenges highlights the complex factors that influence such choices. Her fear of societal judgment and the perceived need to protect her husband's masculinity are both valid concerns that can make it difficult to end a relationship.

Doherty's advice reflects a more optimistic perspective, suggesting that there are men who are secure enough to appreciate Spelling's success without feeling threatened. However, Spelling's reluctance to believe this speaks to the deeply ingrained societal pressures that can shape our beliefs about relationships. It is important to recognize that not all men conform to these stereotypes and that Spelling deserves to find a partner who celebrates her accomplishments rather than diminishing them.