Analysis: Evaluating Diddy's Apology to Cassie Ventura

Editor’s Note: Jill Filipovic is a journalist based in New York and author of the book “OK Boomer, Let’s Talk: How My Generation Got Left Behind.” Follow her on Twitter. The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely her own. View more opinion on CNN. This article has been updated to reflect the latest news.

Last year, singer Cassie Ventura (who goes by “Cassie”) settled a lawsuit with Sean “Diddy” Combs after she accused him of years of physical abuse, including rape and being forced into sex with male sex workers.

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After the settlement, Combs' lawyers emphasized his innocence. According to Ben Brafman, an attorney for Combs, settling a lawsuit in 2023 does not mean admitting any wrongdoing. In a statement to CNN in November, Brafman stated that Combs' decision to settle does not change his strong denial of the claims. He expressed that Combs is pleased with the mutual settlement and wishes Ms. Ventura the best.

Now, there is a video available. After seeing this undeniable proof, Combs has at last offered a public apology. In a video message shared on Instagram, he expressed, "Reflecting on the toughest moments in your life can be challenging, but it's necessary at times. I made mistakes, hit rock bottom, and I take full responsibility. There are no excuses for my behavior in that video."

Combs admitted, "I take full responsibility for my actions in that video. I am disgusted. I was disgusted then when I did it. I’m disgusted now."

However, Combs had the chance to own up to his actions last year when Cassie filed her claim. Instead of taking responsibility, he accused her of blackmail.

Since November, Combs has faced five lawsuits accusing him of various offenses, including sexual abuse, sex trafficking, revenge porn, and gang rape. In response, Combs and his legal team have denied the allegations, calling them a "witch hunt," "money grab," "baseless," and "complete lies."

In December, Combs took to Instagram to address the accusations against him. He stated, "Enough is enough. I have watched silently as people try to destroy my reputation and legacy. These sickening allegations are made by individuals seeking a quick payday. I want to make it clear that I am innocent of these accusations. I will fight for my name, my family, and the truth."

E. Jean Carroll arrives at Manhattan Federal Court for the second civil trial where she accused ex-President Donald Trump of raping her many years ago. The court is located in New York City, USA, on January 18, 2024.

E. Jean Carroll enters Manhattan Federal Court, in the second civil trial after she accused former U.S. President Donald Trump of raping her decades ago, in New York City, U.S., January 18, 2024.

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Trump's behavior in the E. Jean Carroll trial is deeply disturbing for sexual assault survivors.

Now, after months of denial and attacks on his accusers, Trump is finally acknowledging that at least one of them was telling the truth.

One can't help but wonder: Would he have ever confessed without the video evidence? If not, how genuine is his remorse? And how many abusers follow the pattern of denying blame and discrediting their accusers?

The video capturing a brutal attack on Cassie surfaces at a time when the US is facing significant cuts in funding for domestic violence resources, shelters, victim support services, and other vital systems. Additionally, the US Supreme Court is currently deliberating on a case that questions whether individuals under domestic violence restraining orders should be permitted to possess firearms. Shockingly, over a third of women murdered in 2021 were killed by an intimate partner (for men, the percentage is a mere 6%).

In the best-case scenario, the validation of Cassie’s abuse claims could encourage other victims to speak out. Combs’ firm denials and attempts to discredit his accusers may serve as a reminder that not all accusations are true, but neither are all denials.

In the American criminal justice system, individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty. However, in the court of public opinion, a different approach is taken. When considering allegations of abuse or serious wrongdoing, a person's gender or wealth should not automatically determine the credibility of their statement.

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Witnessing one of the worst moments of her life being broadcast worldwide must be incredibly difficult for Cassie. It may also trigger painful memories for other women who have survived abuse, bringing them back to a dark emotional place.

No one should have to witness a video to believe women's accounts of abuse. Most domestic violence incidents occur behind closed doors, at the hands of a partner, away from the public eye.

This case serves as a lesson. Denials are not always truthful. Even influential individuals with much at stake can exhibit inappropriate behavior. While it is commendable for wrongdoers to acknowledge their actions and take responsibility, their apologies lack sincerity if they only come after being exposed.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, there are resources available to help you. One option is to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You can call 1-800-799-7233 or text LOVEIS to 22522. The hotline is available 24/7 and can connect you with local resources and immediate support. Additionally, you can access the hotline through an online chat tool.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, there are resources available worldwide. UN Women offers a global list of directories for assistance, while The Pixel Project provides a list of national agencies that can help.

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