Crystal Hefner is embarking on a journey of healing after spending a decade in the notorious Playboy Mansion. The former spouse of Hugh Hefner, whom she married in 2012 until his passing in 2017, is embracing a fresh start. She has relocated from Los Angeles to Hawaii, where she has renovated a residence on the Big Island. Furthermore, Hefner is set to release her memoir, "Only Say Good Things: Surviving Playboy and Finding Myself," in 2024, which is expected to create shockwaves in Hollywood. In an exclusive conversation with Us, Hefner, who is currently residing in her idyllic Hawaiian home, boldly states, "No one is safe."
Hefner was only 21 when she met Hugh at a Halloween party held at the mansion. Shortly after, he invited the Arizona native to live with him and his other girlfriends, 18-year-old twins Karissa and Kristina Shannon. Reflecting on that time, Hefner, now 37, explains, "I felt overwhelmed and inexperienced. It was as if I had won a golden ticket to Willy Wonka's factory." However, she shares that eventually, "everything started to crumble."
In recent years, numerous women have stepped forward to share their disturbing experiences at the Playboy Mansion. Many models and former girlfriends have accused Hugh Hefner and his group of friends of sexual assault, portraying the magazine mogul as a skilled manipulator. They have also depicted life at the mansion as oppressive, with strict dating regulations and a strictly enforced curfew.
Even after Holly Madison published her scathing memoir, Down the Rabbit Hole: Curious Adventures and Cautionary Tales of a Former Playboy Bunny, in 2015, Hefner was still residing at the mansion. Madison recalls obtaining the e-book version to see what was written about her. She chuckles as she remembers one minor incident mentioned by Madison where she had removed some stickers from a mirror. Nevertheless, the mansion was displeased with even these small grievances, highlighting the limited voice women had at that time.
“It took years for me to understand what I went through and the bubble that I was in for so long,” Hefner says of life in the Playboy Mansion. Tracey Lyn
Hefner found solace in therapy after Hugh's death, allowing her to uncover the trauma she had endured. Through therapy, she began recognizing and understanding behaviors such as gaslighting and narcissism, shedding light on her past experiences and herself. In this journey of self-discovery, Hefner embarked on the process of "deprogramming," breaking free from the mindset that her worth was solely based on her appearance. She realized that she had been rewarded for being codependent and feeling inadequate without Hef, lacking her own individual value. Now, Hefner has gained valuable insights on self-worth, self-love, advocating for oneself, and building healthy relationships.
Hefner is also rediscovering the art of cultivating genuine female friendships. "The women I encountered at the mansion were quite competitive and inclined towards backbiting behavior. You could offer someone $10,000 just to cease being my friend, and they would readily accept the money," she reveals, acknowledging that out of the countless girls she crossed paths with, only a handful have stayed connected. While The Girls Next Door stars, Holly, Bridget Marquardt, and Kendra Wilkinson, have openly shared their experiences at the mansion, Hefner asserts that her outlook was distinct. "I was not merely one of three girlfriends featured on a television show. I was married; I remained by Hugh's side until his passing."
Crystal and Hugh initially ended their engagement in 2016, but they got married the following year. The writing process was therapeutic for Hefner, who felt like she finally had a voice when she read the first manuscript. The most challenging chapters to write were the ones about sex and death. Despite the misconception that she was just a naive girl in Hugh's girlfriend entourage, Hefner now has a clear understanding of her experiences and will reveal them in the book.
Although Hefner emphasizes that this is not a scandalous exposé, readers can expect some shocking revelations. "There are stories of personal pain and individuals who have caused harm, and they are included," Hefner reveals. While she has altered the names of many women and celebrities, she is not sparing anyone from accountability. "The stories are extremely detailed, shedding light on topics that have never been discussed before."
“Building in Hawaii was a process of finding out what I want and who I am,” says Hefner. Tracey Lyn
In the end, her memoir aims to support other women. "If only I had this book in my hands when I was 21, just before entering the mansion," Hefner expressed, highlighting her confidence that her late husband would welcome her sharing her viewpoint. "I aspire for him to support me in telling my story as he was a strong advocate for freedom of speech. It is crucial that women's voices keep growing louder."
Nowadays, the licensed realtor is busy flipping houses in Hawaii and L.A., where she still owns a home. Additionally, she has ventured into the NFT space with First Ape Wives Club, a digital membership pass that provides access to various travel amenities such as booking upgrades and hotel bonuses. This current lifestyle is a stark contrast to her life just six years ago. Reflecting on her past, she admits that when she looks at photos from her time at the mansion, it feels as if she was wearing a costume. In 2016, she made the decision to have her breast implants removed, signaling a significant change. Since Hugh's passing, she has cautiously entered the dating scene and expresses her desire to get married and have children in the future, as she considers herself a romantic at heart. She cherishes the time she spends in Hawaii, travelling, and socializing with people who truly care about her well-being. All in all, life is currently going well for her.