Summary
Penny and Leonard's relationship in The Big Bang Theory was always destined for marriage, but it took them a while to get there due to various obstacles and issues.
The couple's previous attempts at engagement were unsuccessful, which, in hindsight, turned out to be a positive outcome since their original reasons for wanting to get married were problematic.
In the end, their engagement was a result of Penny's career challenges, but it also demonstrated the growth and strong bond they shared. Unbeknownst to Penny, Leonard had been carrying an engagement ring, symbolizing his unwavering commitment to her.
Penny and Leonard experienced multiple engagements on The Big Bang Theory before deciding to marry. It was evident from the start that the show was setting them up as a couple. Though the producers were open to different outcomes, the audience's strong investment in their romance made it difficult to explore other love stories. Consequently, characters like Priya and Leslie gradually faded away.
Even when Penny and Leonard did get together, their relationship faced its share of challenges. These issues mainly stemmed from their circumstances, rather than any doubts about their commitment to each other. Despite their numerous failed attempts at getting engaged, there was always certainty that they would eventually marry. However, looking back, it was ultimately for the best that their engagement took time, as their initial reasons for wanting to marry were problematic.
5 The Launch Acceleration
Leonard had always been infatuated with Penny, but it took her a while to reciprocate his feelings. Even after they began dating, their relationship was filled with apprehension, leading to a separation. However, in "The Launch Acceleration," an episode in season 5 of The Big Bang Theory, Penny and Leonard had been dating for a considerable amount of time, prompting Penny to contemplate taking their relationship to the next level. This led to an intimate encounter between them, with the show creatively choosing to only reveal the aftermath of their proposal.
During an intense moment, Leonard got caught up in his emotions and spontaneously proposed to Penny while in bed. This unexpected gesture caught Penny off guard and not in a positive way, causing her to abruptly leave the bedroom. Leonard was quick to apologize and asked for a second chance, but Penny was understandably upset about his impulsive proposal. After all, they had been working diligently to take things slow and rebuild their relationship.
4 The Tangible Attention Proof
In The Big Bang Theory season 6, episode 16, "The Tangible Affection Proof," Leonard and Penny accompanied Howard and Bernadette on a double date for Valentine's Day dinner. However, the supposedly romantic evening took a turn for the worse when Penny spotted her ex-boyfriend proposing to his new girlfriend. Leonard, trying to salvage the situation, awkwardly attempted to propose despite not having a ring. Before he could begin his speech, Penny firmly instructed him to stand up.
This moment served as a harsh reminder of the imbalance in Penny and Leonard's relationship, highlighting Penny's preoccupation with her ex's engagement while unknowingly insulting her current partner. However, it was satisfying to witness Leonard confront her behavior. Eventually, they managed to reconcile, with Penny confessing that her commitment issues were causing her self-sabotage. It was during this time that they decided Penny would need to be the one to propose.
3 The Hesitation Ramification
Leonard, staying true to their agreement, began exercising caution when it came to proposing, well aware that it greatly unsettled his girlfriend. However, when Penny's professional life encountered a major setback, she became convinced that the solution to her problems lay in getting married. Thus, in The Big Bang Theory season 7, episode 12, "The Hesitation Ramification," Penny impulsively proposed to Leonard while grappling with the shock of being cut from NCIS. This presented the perfect opportunity to solidify a lifelong commitment, but Leonard, knowing better than to exploit her vulnerability, declined.
Leonard's rejection did not signify a lack of desire for Penny. In fact, accepting his intoxicated girlfriend's proposal would have likely resulted in disaster. It is possible that Penny would have recanted once she had sobered up. In any case, she eventually acknowledged the error of her actions and Leonard's decision the following day. Admitting to being in a state of distress, Penny's unanticipated longing to get married stemmed from her recognition of her own chaos.
2 The Proton Transmogrification
After Penny's unsuccessful proposal, she and Leonard had another engagement discussion during Professor Proton's funeral in season 7, episode 22 of The Big Bang Theory, titled "The Proton Transmogrification." By this point, their relationship had become quite comfortable, enabling them to broach deeper subjects like life and death. Leonard expressed his fear of having regrets before his passing, mentioning turning down Penny's proposal as one of them. In response, Penny acknowledged that the timing had simply been wrong.
Although Professor Proton's death was a sorrowful moment, the couple's conversation about failed engagements injected a sense of lightness into the episode. Eventually, Penny nonchalantly proposed again after Leonard pointed out that she had turned him down twice, while he had declined her only once. The whole scene was amusing, but it held significance for their relationship. It further demonstrated that they were in a wonderful stage of their romance where they could find humor in such situations.
1 The Gorilla Dissolution
Surprisingly, the fake proposal at Professor Proton's funeral laid the foundation for Penny and Leonard's actual engagement. In season 7, episode 23 of The Big Bang Theory, titled "The Gorilla Dissolution," the couple finally becomes engaged for real. The circumstances leading to their engagement were similar to when Penny's appearance was cut from NCIS, leaving her feeling disheartened about her career. It was during this vulnerable moment that she spontaneously mentioned the idea of getting engaged.
What set this occasion apart was Penny's ability to articulate why she wanted to marry Leonard in this episode of The Big Bang Theory. She expressed that she didn't require external validation, but rather only needed her boyfriend by her side. This heartfelt revelation deeply touched Leonard and convinced him to seriously consider the idea. Unbeknownst to Penny, Leonard had been secretly carrying a ring in his wallet, a clear indication of his long-standing desire to marry her.